Susan (i prefer than zang2er)
i'd like to see a larger pic of you then
i guess they say "hello laowai" here in hefei.. in shanghai laowai are even too normal..
besides, from the great way you wrote in english, i also thought you could have been half n' half, not fully chinese.. or a chinese that lived abroad!
i know about chinese realism.. i respect that and the differences, even though some of the direct questions are still putting me off, and i am not a completely newbie (i wasn't it even before moving here!).
still i don't agree about the beautiful face: i actually think chinese, especially girls, especially in the chinese-chinese relationships, are looking past the physical appearances.
i remember one of my first considerations after moving here: i saw around so many chinese couples where the girl beauty was at least 2 points above the male part, even admitting that my taste for man are quite different from almost all the chinese girls i talked to!! in europe i would think in these cases that the boy was rich.. here, no, it cannot be so often!!
and i do know some couples of friends or people i know where the case is not that.. nothing to do with amount of money.. just pure caring reasons!
back to good relationship in china, given nobody believes you are a chinese, all the chinese boys should be more enthralled in dating a pretty foreigner that speaks perfect mandarin!! maybe even some dialect
